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Don’t Assume Rapport
Don’t Assume Rapport...
Quick Skills For Relationships – Skill Three
Quick Skills For Relationships – Skill Three... Key Principle Three Rapport is essential for agreements and ongoing relationships. New Behavior Three Awareness of Rapport and non-rapport signals and strategies to change non-rapport will improve your relationship.
Quick Skills For Relationships – Skill One
Quick Skills For Relationships – Skill One... Key Principle One Our eye movements reflect our thinking processes.  Knowing someone’s thinking processes helps you in understanding them. New Behavior One: The Most Important First Step to Understanding Another. Watch eye movements up and say to yourself, “Pictures.” Watch eye movements down right and say to yourself, “Feelings.” For all other eye movements say, “Words and Sounds.
You Can Help Them Change (Step One)
You Can Help Them Change (Step One)... You can’t change anyone else, but you can help them change if they want to. How? By using certain strategies from Gestalt Psychology, Linguistics, and System’s Theory. What strategies?  There are four major steps to this sort of opinion change.  The first step will be explained here.  The other three will follow.  The steps are easy, once you know them.  Most people do not. EXAMPLE: NOT WANTING CHILDREN This...
Eight Pitfalls to Leap Over when Negotiating In a Personal Relationship or Business
Eight Pitfalls to Leap Over when Negotiating In a ... 1.        MY WAY OR NO WAY 2.        FUZZY THINKING 3.        NO EARS 4.        TANGLED IN ASSOCIATIONS 5.         FORGETTING TIME HAS POWER 6.        SELF AS RIGHT 7.        CONTACT AND WITHDRAW 8.        NOW OR NEVER 1.    MY WAY OR NO WAY If you suddenly realize in the middle of the negotiation that you are not going to get what you want, you are at A DISADVANTAGE. ...
Unblocking an Impass Between Your Partner and You
Unblocking an Impass Between Your Partner and You... So you want to go to the mountains on your vacation and the other wants to go to the ocean with beaches and fishing and lots of sunshine.  You hate sunshine.  You blister. So s/he wants Chinese food on your night out and you want fried chicken. So s/he wants the thermostat at 75 and you want it as 68. These things turn up in most relationships sooner or later.  You can fill in your own content.  There are strategies...
Spellbinding: Genie Z. Laborde talks about her new book
Spellbinding: Genie Z. Laborde talks about her new... (The following is a part taken from a new book by Genie Z. Laborde in which she applies Influencing with Integrity principles to the arena of personal relationships.) Try something new When I began this book, it was going to be a ‘How-To’ book on improving relationships. At that time, I was counseling couples, including a psychiatrist, a CEO, a Ph.D., an R.N. and many other professionals. They were all experts...