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How to Find your Favorite Sense

Here’s a way to find out your favorite sense. (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic)

Which of the following responses would you be the most likely to use?

1. In response to the question, “How was your day?”

a. Today was a good day.

b. Our project  looked  more complicated today.

c. The sound of people disagreeing kept interrupting me.

d. I think I’m in the wrong job

2. What was the most important event of this week for you?

a. I can’t think of a thing right now.  Try me next week.

b. The concert on Wednesday night.

c. Dancing with you.

d. Seeing Monet’s “Water Lilies”  I have imagined that painting  for a long time.

3. How would you spend today if we didn’t have to go to work?

a. If I could hear the murmur of the ocean waves all day, that would be my idea of a perfect day

b. I would join you for a hike in the hills.

c. Looking for a new dress for the party on Saturday. I don’t have a thing to wear.

d. I don’t know how to answer that.

4. When you graduated from High School, what careers were you considering?

a. I wanted to be an artist.  Or an interior decorator

b. I thought I’d be a rock star.

c. I wanted to play professional tennis.

d. I had dreams of being a college professor.

5. Would you like to go to a movie?

a. Not tonight.  I’m much too tired. Maybe tomorrow night.

b. Have you seen the one about Viet Nam?

c. I would rather stay home and listen to some music with you.

d. What’s on?

6. Did you read that article about the war  in this morning’s paper?

a. Are you referring to the one with the photo?

b. I think I did.

c. Read it to me.

d. It makes me feel sick to read about it.


There are no right or wrong answers. All answers are correct. To discover your own personal perceptual preference, count up the number of visual answers, then the number of auditory answers, then the number of Kinesthetic answers. Your favorite sense will show up in the numbers.

  • Question 1. a. (Kinesthetic) b. (Visual) c. (Auditory) d. (Non-specific)
  • Question 2. a. ( Non-specific) b. (Auditory) c. (Kinesthetic) d. (Visual)
  • Question 3 a. (Auditory) b. (Kinesthetic) c. (Visual) d. (Non-specific)
  • Question 4. a. (Visual) b. (Auditory) c. Kinesthetic) d. (Non-specific)
  • Question 5 a. (Kinesthetic) b. (Visual) c. (Auditory) d (Non-specific)
  • Question 6. a. (Visual) b. (Non-specific) c. (Auditory) d. (Kinesthetic)

The sense you use the most is reflected in your language. If you used visual words the most, then chances are you prefer pictures to “make sense ” of your world. If you prefer sound words, you are an Auditory and spend a lot of your awareness on sounds, words, and music. If you have a dominance of kinesthetic, you are constantly aware of your emotions, and the actions of your body as you move through space. If most of your sensory words were abstract or non-specific, then you are a cerebral, naming data without awareness of a lot of body sensations. You are slightly dis-connected from your own sensory data. These four perceptual preferences make a big difference in your memories, your decisions, and your preferences. The data you collect from the world around you creates your moment to moment reality.

If you and your partner are mis-matched in these perceptual preferences, you are living in vastly different worlds. For example if you are a kinesthetic and s/he is an auditory then “truth” is hard to find. Do not believe me. Check this out for yourself.

Most of us have one sense that we use the most to collect data from the world around us, store this in our brains, and use this data to decide how to act. We use a second sense now and then, but the third major sense is usually outside our awareness, so when we meet someone whose favorite sense is our least used, we have difficulty relating and communicating. We are using vastly different information in our decision making.

More information on this subject can be found in the book, “Influencing with Integrity”. There is also a video series on this topic and other strategies for better relationships.

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